Maarten de J ([email protected])
Sun, 11 Oct 1998 04:04:20 PDT
This sounds serious and that is why it deserves serious attention. My
cousin stepped out a few years ago. She had her own problems, which she
did not drag too much attention to in general, but at many times she
reached out to family and friends who she thought could help her. Those
grew a little tired of that because they thought she was just trying to
get attention. Nothing was further from the truth. Now those friends and
my family feel guilty because they were obviously blind for her calls.
It is tearing the family apart. They could have helped her, and make her
change her mind. Some did not know how and rather did not want to deal
with her at times, but they did not care to try. Now it's them who
suffer, me included.
It's not a question of who is to blame, but what can be done to prevent
serious, regretful things like this. I think it's best to do now what he
wants and give what he thinks he needs, no matter what, even if you
don't want to.
I don't know Reno very well, but I know a friend of his who enlightened
me on this. Apparently his relation with this lady swung from extreme to
extreme - from someone who felt like a brother to her, to someone who
overwhelmed her. And she too felt like a relative to him, a very natural
relation, but I am told she too treated him extremely bad, way beyong
borders of decency. His friends said they drove each other nuts. She
might be right in not wanting further contact, but whatever happened
between them in the past is irrelevant now: important is what can be
done. Reno is said to be a very kind and generous person, who is always
willing to help others. Despite he sounds desperate now, I think he is
all good. Anyone disagree? Even is he was bad, he deserves respect and
attention. If Reno indeed felt like a brother to Anna, I think the lady
here should take her responsibilty and face it. Or anyone else for that
matter. Apparently Reno indeed called out many times, because he needed
her very badly. Didn't she see this? Quite self-centred, I would say.
His friend said Reno was not exaggerating when he said he's getting
paralysed. He needs air to breath, air Anna can give him he said.
Obviously he needs help, yes. A problem is that the solution lays on the
other side of the ocean. Whoever can give him help and energy, I
strongly suggest you do so, while you still can.
I tried to call him, but got no answer. Mail me if you'd like his
phonenumber.
What would Bono say if he finds out that two fans who became best
friends through U2, who've traveled the world and found each other by
accident, who were there for each other when they needed each other when
one of them was in need, are now so crossed with each other that one of
them doesn't want to go on anymore. I think the problem lays by both of
them, not just Reno. Bono and the others of U2 would be devastated, I
think. U2's music is supposed to bring unity and care, not alienation
and pain. That's bad. What are we on this list for?
Maarten
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